Believe it or not but it apparently starts at the ultrasound. The doctor observes an external reproductive organ and the training starts – training for fixing a light bulb, training for how not to cry, and training for punching the kid who teases your sister. Men are taught to be tough, to work hard, to protect, and to carry on the family name. Since the moment they gain consciousness of their being, they’re forced to be driven – driven by who they are, what they do, and how much they make. It’s encrypted in their DNA.
“Nothing on this planet can compare with a woman’s love – it is kind and compassionate, patient and nurturing, generous and sweet, and unconditional. Pure. If you are her man, she will walk on water and through a mountain for you. If you are her man, she will shine you up when you’re dusty, encourage you when you’re at rock bottom, hold you in her arms when you’re sick, and laugh with you when you’re up. That’s a woman’s love – it stands the test of time, logic, and all circumstance.”
Man’s love?… Uh…Slightly different. And if you expect the same in return, you’re just asking for trouble. If a man expresses his love at 7:15pm, it is probably not going to dissolve at 7:45pm so quit asking him ‘do you still love me?’ every half hour!
Men love. They love a great deal. They do, they really do, but in their own way.
Profess. Protect. Provide.
As soon as he recognizes you’re the one, he will pin you down and announce in an open field. This is to immediately cut off all ‘other’ accessibility in the market. If he somehow figures out your match.com password, he may even delete your account. Your Facebook relationship status may change overnight. If he loves you, he will protect your well-being and consider your happiness. He will carry the bags, fight the ex, fill up the gas tank, and may even change the diapers once in a while. He may moan and crib, but fear not for he will change the diapers once in a while – just once in a while.
Steve goes on teasing different topics and creating ripple effects. A few next chapters talk about what a man wants in return – support, loyalty, and the Cookie! Steve targets at knowing the difference between when a man is sports fishing vs. when he’ll keep the fish. Steve also highlights the standards that women desire that make women more desirable.
One of the few books that got me desiring a man and cracking me up at the same time. The book is serious without any seriousness.
A man is always expected to ask you out on a date, to buy the movie ticket, to take care of the food bill, and to drop you back home safely. It is also an indisputable duty of a man to open the door for the lady. Steve says let him and let him because he should. I’m beginning to discover a new found respect for Steve Harvey and I’m going to give this a try. I’m going to ‘Act like a lady, think like a man,’ and give this a try.